It’s completely natural to feel miserable and hopeless after breaking up with your ex, but it doesn’t help change or resolve the situation. Right now, more than any other, you need to look to the power of positive thinking to help you get through this difficult time. And it will also help you in your efforts to get your ex to fall in love with you again. It takes a little time and patience, but reconciliation is possible.
Wherever love has been before, it can grow back, it will just take a little effort, and a lot of patience, on your part. Breakups are often temporary and when your ex realizes what she lost when she left you, the possibility of your ex falling in love with you again is much easier than you might imagine. But you have to face this challenge with a positive mindset.
After the separation, you really have two options: acceptance or rejection. Acceptance would be accepting the fact that, at least for the time being, their relationship no longer exists. Rejection is the idea that this cannot be possible and will often lead us to over-search and thus ruin our chances of getting our ex back. Begging and pleading are never good ways to get your ex back, they serve to drive an even bigger wedge between the two of you and will only detract from your dignity. The best way to handle the breakup is to use the acceptance model, and while it’s hard, it will make it much easier to get your ex to fall in love with you again in the end.
Right now, both you and your ex are feeling a whirlwind of negative emotions surrounding the breakup: When one is not in a balanced frame of mind, having a meaningful conversation is difficult, if not impossible. There needs to be a “cooling off phase” where the two of you have plenty of time and space apart to work through all the pain and anger you’re feeling right now. As they say, time heals all wounds, and you will find this to be true in your experience as well. Respecting your partner’s wishes and boundaries is part of the way to getting your ex to fall in love with you again.
Think positively and work on yourself, overcoming your emotions and working to improve yourself, inside and out. Sooner or later, they are likely to contact you, as they will have had enough time to start missing you, and when they see you new and improved, it will be very difficult for him or her to resist.