If you just broke up with the man you love and can’t stop thinking about how to get him back, I have good news for you. It really is possible to get back with him, you just have to know how to do it right. I’m going to share some very specific do’s and don’ts if you really want to be successful in your efforts to get him back.
First, you have to stop doing these four things right now
1. No more calls, emails or texts all day and night. I know it’s really hard to resist doing this, especially when you miss him so much. But I’m telling you, it’s totally against you.
2. Don’t keep arguing with your ex about your breakup. I know this is going to sound like weird advice, but what you really need to do is agree with him about your breakup. Once you let go of the pressure, you give him a chance to start feeling attracted to you again. People want what they can’t have; it is human nature. Make him worry that he might not be able to get you back and you will make him start wanting you again.
3. Do not contact his family and friends. Seems like it would make sense to talk to them and see what they know about your breakup, right? But it won’t work. He will find out and that will only irritate him and drive him further away.
4. Do not meet him “by accident”. This will make it look like you have been following him and will make you seem that much more desperate. This will not help you get it back.
Then what should I do? Easy. Even if you’ve done some or all of the above, you can still change things and get it back. It all starts with sending a short handwritten letter. This is what you want to include in the letter:
1. Let him know that you’re okay with breaking up now.
2. Tell him that you really agree with the decision to break up and that you feel it’s best for both of you.
3. If you did something you feel really bad about, you can apologize for it. Only do this if it was something really bad, and even then, keep it short. Otherwise just leave this out.
4. Tell him that you have something really good in your life right now and that you would like to tell him about it one of these days.
5. Let him know that you want to give him some space right now.
6. End with something like this: It would be nice if we could be friends again one day.
When you write the note, make it sound like you feel cool and calm about the whole situation. And that’s all you need to do. I’m telling you, this card really works like magic. It will intrigue him and make him start thinking about you again. And that is the first step to being with him again.
Be careful, thought: what you do next is really important
What you do after you send this letter is critical. It could mean the difference between getting it back or losing it forever. You don’t want to fall back into your old ways of doing things and push him away again.