Before contact with your ex boyfriend starts again, you should have slept together for a while. He will have to understand that you accepted the break up before he wants to talk again; otherwise it will be too awkward for both of you. Time heals all wounds, but using this to your advantage can also help heal a breakup. Once you’ve learned the ways to make him miss you, and once you’ve taken the safety net out of your relationship, he’ll really start to wonder what you’re doing. This will lead to contact, and if you play your cards right, he’s probably the one to reset it.
Talking to your ex may be easy, but saying and doing the right things is not. When first contact occurs, you’ll want to be very careful how she talks. Take it easy and keep the conversation light. If possible, let him talk most of the time. The biggest mistake most women make when their ex calls them for the first time is showing too much emotion. This reveals your position and puts your ex-boyfriend at an advantage because she will immediately know that she can come back to you whenever she wants. This is not what you want now.
Instead, he wants to maintain the air of mystery that has surrounded him these past few weeks. While you still love him and want him back, you have to get him (for the most part) out of your head every day. You should have a good time without him, see friends, and just generally “get on with it.” This worries any man, even one who ended the relationship himself. He makes her wonder if you’re so special, why did he break up with you in the first place?
When you talk to him, keep full control over your emotions. Don’t tell him that you miss him or that you’ve been thinking about him. Try to be friendly and nice, but at the same time, also be a bit noncommittal. He may ask you about your current dating situation, and this is a good sign. Be honest, and don’t embellish. You don’t want to talk too much here, and it’s best to let him do most of the talking. Even if it’s just small talk, talking to him again is a big step on the road to getting back together.
The worst thing you can do here is discuss the break up. don’t. If he brings it up himself, just tell him you wish things didn’t end the way they did. This important line will open the door to the relationship, letting him know that he is free to try to open it again. But his casual attitude and demeanor also let her know that he’s going to have to open that door slowly.
If your ex hasn’t called you yet, don’t worry. There are other techniques you can use on his part that will influence him to initiate contact. There are also good ways to get in touch with him for the first time after you break up, without putting yourself in an inferior position. Try to think of a reason why you need to call him, or maybe mention a mutual friend you ran into recently.