Should you let an adult child come home? Parents send their near-grown children to conquer the world, and sometimes they return home. A parent’s goal is to teach their child to survive the best and the worst that life has to offer. Most young people are able to maintain a level of existence, sobriety, and relationships that sustain them until they really know who they are and what they want to do with their lives.
However, sometimes life gives them a curve and they fail. Circumstances can hurt them, even bring them to their knees. A devastating breakup with a lover, failing their first semester, the unexpected death of a best friend, or being fired from their first real job can throw your child off the game and take months to a year to recover.
Did you keep his childhood bedroom the same? Perhaps this is the time to open the shutters and prepare for an injured visitor. Make it clear that the invitation is temporary, but open the door wide and let them come home. As irritating as they are to you and your spouse, remember that your skimpy clothes will irritate them too. As they begin to regain their sea legs, they will want the freedom of their own place as soon as possible. If you want to encourage them to leave quickly after a few weeks of recovery, start talking non-stop about developing a strong work ethic and new disciplined habits instead of blaming others for your situation or procrastination. Hopefully, they will soon be looking for new adventures.
Help them improve their diet and sleep patterns. Try to include fish oil and B vitamins on a daily basis to help recharge your nerves and bodies. Less coffee and colas and more vegetables will help their mood. If your child seems to be getting worse or rarely leaves the house, antidepressants may be indicated. Get medical help right away if your child seems down or suicidal.
Being a mom or dad again can even heal the pain of the empty nest. Offer them a safe haven for a while away from the pressures of living fast and competitive. Soon they will try to fly again, this time a little wiser, a little stronger, and a little smarter. Oh, and don’t redecorate that room yet. They may be back.