I want to talk for a moment about the beauty of women. No, I’m not a cosmetologist, dermatologist, hairdresser, or fashion coordinator, just an ordinary heterosexual with a fondness for the opposite sex. I always knew there were differences between boys and girls, but this didn’t become apparent to me until I entered high school and noticed that girls were starting to apply cosmetics, change their hair, and wear more fashionable clothes. I guess this marked the beginning of our mating rituals when the boys started to sit up and pay attention.
It has been my observation over the years that women rely primarily on physical attractiveness to attract a mate. That’s why millions, if not billions of dollars are spent on beauty products for hair, skin, nails, eyes, lips, legs, even a woman’s scent. Let’s also not forget the enormity of the fashion industry that includes not only clothes, but also shoes and hats. It’s obviously a gigantic business. Some women are naturally beautiful and they know it. Others have to work at it.
However, I wonder if women rely too much on physical appearance and overlook the charm of a personality. Over the years, I have met many women who may have lacked looks, but are incredibly sexy just because of their personality. They may have a good sense of humor, calmness, confidence, or something just feminine. I guess they just feel comfortable with themselves and know how to make others feel the same way. Perhaps this is the “feminine mystique” I’ve been hearing about all these years. I’ve seen women who know how to light up a room with nothing more than a smile and a gentle wave of their hand, but who otherwise consider themselves to be dowdy. Men naturally gravitate towards such women as they are more approachable than a beauty with an incredible figure, simply because they know how to carry on a conversation and make the people around them feel comfortable.
Some people think that things like sex and cooking are part of the attractiveness of women, and I suspect that there are many men who think so. As for me, those things are just icing on the cake. Any relationship based on this alone is doomed from the start.
Instead of spending tons of money on the physical aspects, I’d like them to spend a little bit on cultivating a personality, something that can put men at ease, even be charmingly flirtatious. Most men can be intimidated by stunning beauty, considering them untouchable. Having worked up the courage to talk to such a woman, they are left despondent when they discover that there is nothing behind the facade. Instead, they would prefer to be able to enjoy the company of the woman, but if the lights are on and no one is home, the encounter will be brief. I am certainly not suggesting that the woman be submissive to the man. In fact, I find it quite unpleasant. Women who possess wit, a warm heart, openness, a sense of humor, and self-confidence despite some physical handicap can be much more interesting and stimulating than a glamorous queen.
I guess what I’m describing is a woman’s “inner beauty,” which can be incredibly seductive, and I guess it’s essentially no different than how women view men. However, for those people who lack beauty both outside and inside, I pray that they are good in the kitchen or in the bedroom. Either that, or they start frequenting a salon, a gym, or a voice coach. Otherwise, they will remain quite alone for a long time.
Keep faith!