Tantra in its essence is a circle of vital energy that flows between two people. When that circle flows strongly, you and your partner grow deeper and deeper in harmony with each other. Your relationship comes to life. If you are single, you can still create this circle within yourself and thus discover the law of attraction. That is, the more you fill yourself with joy and vital energy, the more attractive you become.
To understand what this vital energy is, remember the first time you touched your partner or someone you were attracted to. She probably felt a ripple like electrical current flowing between you. That is what is meant by energy. Sometimes you may still feel it when making love and know that something special is going on; something that often escapes you. This energy can heal your physical body and will also heal your relationship.
Imagine that your relationship naturally grows deeper and stronger over time. It is not so common; in fact, most couples break up over time. However, it is not that difficult to achieve. A little experiment with Tantra will show you how.
To begin, they sit facing each other with their knees touching. If it is comfortable for both of them, the woman can sit on the man’s lap. This is a beautiful posture and brings the energy centers or chakras closer together.
The secret of this meditative exercise is that the chakras are polarized. The sexual center of man is positively charged or active. The woman’s is negatively charged or receptive. It is easy to feel this. Bring your awareness to your sex. Allow yourself to really notice how it feels. Usually we tend to be shy about this. If you are a woman, you will notice how the yoni (this word in Sanskrit means ‘divine passage’) wants to attract her beloved. If a man knows how the lingam (the ‘wand of light’) wants to grow and move out and towards his mistress.
In the heart, it is reversed. A woman’s breasts naturally flow towards the beloved, be it her son or her man. The male is less comfortable with her heart. Just as a woman’s sexual center takes a while to respond, a man’s heart takes a while to relax and respond. The woman’s heart center is active. The man’s is receptive.
For a while, they just sit together and feel each other. It will be good to have some music, something soft that you both enjoy. Relax for a few moments. Then bring your attention to the sexual center. The woman pays attention to inspiration, drawing the vital energy of the man from her. The man focuses on the exhalation, letting her fire flow out and into her. Let your imagination take you, feel your breath go in and out of your roots.
Once you’ve settled into this rhythm, pay attention to your heart. The man begins to feel the energy of his woman flowing through her heart and the woman feels her warm vitality flowing through her breasts into his chest. This is: the Circle of Love. The life force flows in a circle from the root chakra of the man to the sexual center of the woman, up the spine and out through her breasts. From her breasts, it flows into the man’s heart, down her spine, and out again through her lingam.
You can also feel this force flowing within you when you are not with a partner. The circle will flow up the front of your body from your sex to your heart and back down through your spine to your roots again. If you don’t have a partner, it’s wonderful to do this on your own. It will heal and strengthen you and create within you a powerful force of attraction.
Do more than just read about the Circle of Love. Try the experiment and see for yourself how your life force flows in and out of you. See how it bridges the gap between you and your lover, nurturing both of you and breathing new life into the way you relate.