Men are from Mars, women are from Venus according to John Gray in his book of the same name. Use this to illustrate the differences in the behavior of men and women. I just re-read the previous book, it has a very attractive introduction to explain the differences between men and women. How men began on Mars and women on Venus and how they came together.
John Gray is a counselor and has studied how to improve relations between the sexes. After seven years of research and testing new methods, he was able to turn things around with his clients and wrote the book.
Yes, I think we would all agree that there is a difference in how men and women react differently to situations and even conversations. The way in which the questions are asked and the different meanings that the sexes “hear”. The different connotations of “could” and “could” in particular, and how men prefer short direct requests, not long explanations.
As it seems in the book, the points are used to evaluate the effort expended by the partners in a relationship, and how men score differently from women. I must say that I had never considered a point system. It is suggested that it is the perceived imbalance that may be the source of the arguments. I asked my partner about some of the particular issues and questions, he did not always react according to the book.
However, I caught a situation; Apparently, women may express discomfort or irritation without expecting or wanting a “solution”, while men hear it as a problem to which they have to provide a solution. I have noticed that this happens, if I complain and make a comment, if, for example, I lose something on my laptop, my colleague immediately makes suggestions to “fix” it.
There are some interesting lists of ways that men react to unintentional but seemingly annoying comments and questions from women; more attractive suggestions are provided.
So an interesting read with some surprising revelations, some of which I am sure apply, but as people we are all different. Perhaps understanding your partner’s reactions could, in some situations, make the relationship more harmonious.
A list at the end of the book is a long list of situations of how a woman would appreciate her Man treating her. I checked those I replied to in case my partner reads the book at some point, you might get an idea of my preferences! Some of the situations made me laugh, you may also find them funny.
I will be on the lookout for various reactions to situations in the coming weeks and perhaps recognize more differences to the reactions of Martians and Venusians. In the meantime, I’d say it’s an interesting read, and if you have raises and misunderstandings, you could benefit from some of the ways to communicate and resolve disagreements. So read it and see what you think. In the meantime, I’ll keep an eye on the reactions of my Martians!
It’s not actually mentioned in the book, but I realize that men don’t automatically notice things the way I think women do, and with practice they “save their legs” by taking multiple things into the kitchen at once, as an example. not that I am complaining about my Martian who has been extremely attentive as I am stranded on the couch 24/7 with a fractured kneecap.
Lucky I have an online business where I can work on my laptop balanced on my lap or I would have suffered an incredible boredom in the last five weeks. Even though we are wintering in Spain, I can’t see much. However, at least there is sun every day! I am lucky to be able to work anywhere with my laptop.
So maybe John Gray’s book can improve your relationship, or at least give you an interesting read, and maybe you’re interested in time and location freedom and would like to work on your laptop too.
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