As women, we seem to constantly be given conflicting advice on how to deal with men. Some relationship gurus tell us to take the bull by the horns and take control of the relationship, while others tell us that men still want to set the pace when it comes to dating. It is really hard to know what is right and what is wrong, this is especially true when it comes to men and phone calls. Should you call the man you’re dating? Should you play hide-and-seek on the phone with him on purpose, or should you just call him when you feel like talking? It’s complicated, and unless you have a clear idea of which approach works best, it’s also incredibly confusing.
The age-old problem of men and phone calls has plagued women forever. When you’re dating a man and you think the relationship could get serious, you want to be sure to play your cards right. You don’t want to harass him or make him think you’re already planning the wedding. Instead, you want to create a feeling of desire in him. For the same reason you shouldn’t be the one chasing him. Calling him non-stop just to hear his voice or because you miss him will eventually affect the relationship. Men are much more interested in a woman they have to contact than one who contacts them all the time.
If you have been dating for a while and are getting tired of waiting for your boyfriend to pick up the phone and call, there is also an approach that will work wonders for you. Men become complacent very easily and if you make the mistake of being the one to call him to make plans or to see how his day is going, he will never have a reason to be the one to approach you. The easiest way to remedy this situation is to simply stop calling him. If he has called you every day for weeks to see how he was doing at work or to see what he did at night, don’t do it again. It won’t be long before you see his name and number on the caller’s screen. You’ll wonder what could have gotten in the way of you calling him every day. Once he realizes you just didn’t make the effort, he’ll start making more of an effort to call you.