Getting your boyfriend back after a break up is not easy. It requires a discreet plan along with strategic moves. However, before you make any moves, you must first be in a position of power. If he doesn’t, every move will be met with resistance and his efforts will be in vain. And the worst thing is that your ex will not have any respect for you.
It is crucial that every move you make is made from a position of power. Have confidence in both your actions and your words. Let it speak for who you are and what you want. It is important to note here that with the break up, your boyfriend effectively owns the relationship between the two of you. By doing so, he is in a position of power where you are not. The deck is stacked against you… and as long as that’s the case, you’ll never get the upper hand.
recovering his position
This is essential to recover it. What you really want to accomplish here is to change the way he thinks about how he sees you. It’s important that he sees you as someone worth dating and not just an ex. Make him see you as his equal instead of something he has to control.
I have no doubt that right now you are asking yourself the question: “How do I regain control of a relationship that ended?”.
It’s actually not possible. However, what you can do right now is take some of your ex’s control away by getting his attention.
After the breakup, your boyfriend will see you a certain way and it will not be good, so you need to change that as soon as possible. His decision will be made unless you change it for him. Lucky for you, there are several ways to get your ex to notice you again while also realizing that he made a mistake in breaking up with you.
Understanding these methods and how they work will put you on the right path to recovery.
Knowing why you want it back will help you get it back
Do you know why you want to get back together?
If you haven’t asked yourself that question yet, now is a good time to do so. Is it because you love him? You miss him? I bet the reason you want him back is less complicated than you think. It’s because he rejected you.
Take a moment to think about that.
I’m almost sure his immediate reaction to the breakup was to try to keep the relationship alive. But did you stop and really think about it? Maybe you are better apart? The mistake you made here was that your response to the breakup was natural but thoughtful and defensive.
It is normal and natural to want to be loved, but at the same time it is also normal and natural to want what we cannot have. The moment the relationship ended was the moment you wanted to be loved by him, but you also wanted what you couldn’t have anymore.
But you know something he doesn’t. The door opens both ways. This is great for you because you can make your ex want to get back with you with this little trick.
Inside the mind of your ex boyfriend
“When I know a girl wants me back, I’m not interested in her at all. The fact that she’s still chasing me is a reminder of why I broke up.”
“But something weird happens when she stops chasing me. She’s instantly hot again. Not being able to have her anymore makes you do a total of 180 from when you could have her anytime you wanted.”
To change the balance of power between you and your ex, the first step is to stop blaming yourself and seeing yourself as a victim. You may not see it in the mirror right away, but you are strong, confident, and have something valuable to offer… tap into this self-confidence because it is the key to getting it back.
The other thing to do is change the way you think about how “control” your boyfriend is. Even though he’s the one who ended it, he doesn’t have full control over what you do next. There are things you can do that will influence the way he sees you. And the sooner you start working on yourself and making personal adjustments, the sooner he will notice you.
Finally, don’t get hung up on the breakup. So your boyfriend broke up with you… it happens every day to women all over the world. This doesn’t give you a license to go around and throw a pity party for yourself. I suggest you go back and reread the part about seeing the break up through your boyfriend’s eyes. Crying and begging and chasing him won’t make it. As you work to restore your confidence, your actions and words will follow his example and your boyfriend WILL TAKE CARE of you.
Turning the tables on your ex by rejecting him
What you want to achieve here is to make it seem like you are no longer interested in your ex. Up to this point, this is the exact opposite of what you’ve been doing, but I guarantee as soon as you brake and stop chasing him, he’ll start to worry.
This simple but effective ploy will make it so your ex can’t get you out of his head. You might not think he’s all that interested in what you’re currently doing, but you’d be surprised how quick and effective this is.
Since your ex is the one who broke things off and you’ve been chasing him, he knows he can get you back whenever it suits him. This puts him in a position of power like the one I mentioned earlier because he allows her to do whatever he wants during the breakup.
However, when you start doing your thing, something magical happens. Your ex has to face the reality that he might lose you. What’s even better is that “breaking up” with your ex puts you on the receiving end of rejection. Now I understand that you’re not technically dating, but when you take the initiative and start doing your thing, you put yourself in a position of power.
At first, your ex broke off the relationship. But now you’ve turned him around. This is an integral part of getting your boyfriend back because now he has to look at a relationship that could be lost forever. If you haven’t already guessed, you are making your ex love you by not loving him back.