Tears at bedtime and not being able to sleep happily are a problem for many parents. A good routine and starting at a young age help, but the most important thing is to stay relaxed and look forward to success.
Exercise earlier in the day, especially outside, will be a good starting point, followed by quiet games before bed. A warm bath helps to relax children followed by a favorite story in a happy and relaxed way to help them relax happily. A favorite soft toy, teddy bear, or snuggly blanket provides comfort and security when lying next to your now relaxed and sleepy little one, which should help you settle for a good night’s sleep.
When my tribe was little, we had a simple bedtime routine. After walking home from school, quite a long walk for little legs, a drink and cookies were welcome, then they had fun and enjoyed time to play while dinner was being prepared. Help with preparation was reserved for weekends when more time was available. After the meal they were able to continue their games until bedtime. Although some were in school, they had not yet been assigned homework on a regular basis.
In the 1960s, The Magic Roundabout was the cue to go to bed. Shortly before, a reminder was given, “Who can collect 10 things before their show?” A combined effort and a little help soon restored normalcy to the room and encouraged them to pick up their toys in a fun way. Toys away, it was time to sit and watch, followed by bath time, teeth, toilet, story, and bed.
There were no questions, there was no choice, that was how it was. When you have so many kids, it’s maybe easier to get results when the little ones follow one another, we all flock upstairs to where everyone was in a bubble bath. Start your routine early and it becomes the expected.
Clean and relaxed, it was time for a story. They had walked about 2 miles home from school; well, all but the little ones (one in the stroller and one in it); with the elders trailing behind. We often played I see, I see, to help with the journey. So with all that fresh air and exercise, everyone was tired and ready for bed.
He did not allow or expect the children to come down at night, but staying in bed and going to sleep, this almost always happened. They didn’t get a chance to consider any other behavior and were probably too tired anyway.
Stay calm, firm and consistent and you will get the results you want and expect. Just because you’re assertive about the behaviors you think are important doesn’t mean you’re not kind or that you don’t love them. Just remember to praise good behavior and have positive expectations. Set limits early on and adjust them if necessary as the child grows.
I hope that these suggestions have started from a young age and bring you restful nights and happy, relaxed children.