Divorce one leads to another
Recently, my friend from America mentioned that she had been divorced and thus became a member of MMC, which stands for multiple wedding club. I was surprised by this terminology, which I had not heard before. It obviously means a woman or a man who has been married many times. The MMC is unique and I was told that once you have gone through the first divorce you will be heading to the MMC membership.
My conversation with her revealed certain facts that may be of help to others. So before she gets divorced, she may want to keep up to date. It is a sad story that 45-50% of marriages in the United States end in divorce and most of them are in the first 3 years of marriage. One fact that stands out is that in case you get divorced once, it is like breaking the ice and that could be the start of a second and maybe a third divorce and then you will qualify for the MMC.
The first divorce is like a watershed in one’s life. It’s like sailing into uncharted waters. There is fear of the unknown, but after that, the second and third divorces are relatively easy. This is because you know what the cost is involved and what you are expected to do. You will know where to cut corners and how to act on the whole thing. It is like entering a familiar path.
Keep in mind that no matter what you do, your first divorce can have effects that last for a long time. You could pay alimony and even lose your home. It can be quite a disaster and I think it’s a very good thing as this can stop a divorce, but unfortunately it’s not happening.
Membership in the MMC is, of course, voluntary and imaginary. There is no such club, but it is there in the mind. I asked my friend if she was happy with this terminology. She emphatically said “NO” and was sad that she had gotten divorced. That is the bottom line that divorce does not lead to happiness. I think the east is better where getting a divorce is a Herculean task. Why not get divorced in the United States? more strict
Why get divorced? For a man it could be the allure of unrestrained sex with another woman, and perhaps for the woman as well. I admit this is only one side of a die and there are 6 sides. Maybe Islam solves the problem with permission to have multiple wives: but you need money for that!