Vaginal Moisture During Sex: IT MAY BE WETER THAN NEEDED!
Most of us assume that sex is best when wet, but do you feel as much as you could from intercourse? Like a car engine, there is an upper and lower range that is required for maximum performance.
Too much natural lubrication (moisture) during intercourse reduces pleasure for both partners. Females lose more stimulation along the vaginal walls. Men lose the corresponding ‘tight’ feeling they love. We all have an optimal level of friction that is required to allow greater pleasure for both partners, leading to an easier climax. This level of stimulation can most easily be obtained by experimenting with your humidity level. Sex could be a lot more satisfying than you think it already is.
A woman’s humidity level naturally increases as arousal increases. But for some women, even the slightest turn-on is enough to produce an outrageous amount of lubrication. If excess humidity is a problem for you, OR if you simply want to experiment with different levels of humidity, looking for the most pleasant ‘tight’ feeling for your man, what can you do?
First, keep in mind that there are more implications to sex than just the intercourse part. More women reach orgasms through clitoral stimulation than through intercourse. However, intercourse is an intimate act and should be satisfying when possible. If it’s not pleasant, a partner will most likely become romantically distant. This is the beginning of the deterioration of the marriage.
Second, you need to see your doctor to make sure there are no infections, abnormalities, or other issues causing your excess moisture, especially if it’s something new. Don’t take chances!
The most radical solution to excess moisture is surgery. This should be your last resort and is rarely necessary. Other medical procedures include freezing or lasing the cervix to reduce secretions, electrical stimulation, and treatment with magnetic fields. These treatments can be painful, expensive, and time consuming. There is no guarantee of success or that the problem will not return.
There are numerous options, but few realistic ones. Here are some common things couples try (including some “old wives tales”) and comments on their effectiveness.
1) Anything that dries your mouth. In general, if you dry your mouth, it will also affect your vagina a bit. Some examples would be decongestants, antihistamines, cold formulas, certain antidepressants, alcohol, cigarettes, and marijuana. While these can work to some extent, the humidity and the corresponding stress levels are not controllable, not to mention that a dry mouth is not as tasty during kissing and is more conducive to bad breath due to a lack of saliva.
2) Try an alum shower. We have heard of this, but do not know of a doctor who recommends it. Alum works to constrict the walls of the vagina, but it can be irritating and cause yeast infections. There is no way to judge how long it will last or to control the degree of adjustment.
3) Use a ribbed condom or penis sleeve. Excess moisture is still a problem with or without a condom. Penis sleeves help a man feel more, but they tend to numb a woman’s vagina after a few minutes, making her feel uncomfortable.
4) Shower under running water. This has some impact in reducing the amount of natural lubrication, but the effect tends to wear off as the woman’s arousal increases, resulting in a secretion of even more lubrication.
5) Insert a sponge or cloth. One of the most embarrassing techniques, as it must be done intermittently. Couples find this a huge detour. However, the technique involves wrapping a thin sheet / towel around a couple of fingers. Insert fingers to absorb vaginal moisture. Continue with sexual intercourse. Repeat as needed. While this method works, reentry into the vagina is difficult and painful because this method absorbs ALL lubrication. However, in a few minutes, as the excitement builds up again, there will be too much moisture again. With this method, there is no way to control the desired level of moisture and tightness.
6) Using a fan that blows into the genital area. It is not a practical solution, as it mainly results in the partner cooling down, while having little impact on internal vaginal secretions.
7) Use of birth control pills. A tale of old women without any validity.
8) Reposition your body. Certain positions, such as the leg lock, act to tighten the vagina, but unless a man has a longer than average penis, he will find it much less satisfying due to more shallow penetration.
9) Insert an ice cube into the vagina to cause muscle contraction. Another old wives’ tale, not to mention the obvious discomfort.
10) Vaginal cones. Very similar in concept to kegal exercises. The idea here is to exercise the vaginal muscles by holding an object inside the vagina by flexing the internal muscles. Increasingly heavy weights can be placed inside. The theory is sound, but women have a hard time staying on this type of program long enough to be beneficial, not to mention that like any muscle, if it is not worked continuously, it will lose its strength. The other disadvantage is that to be beneficial during intercourse, a woman must consciously flex her internal muscles, which takes away the ability to relax and enjoy the sexual act itself.
11) Creams. There are a couple of these on the internet that are now marketed under many different names. If you already suffer from excess moisture, adding a cream to the existing problem will not help. The manufacturers say that the creams have a tightening effect on the vagina in 15-30 minutes, but evidence shows that any NOTABLE tightening effect is minimal or null. Applying the cream to the inner walls of the vagina is difficult, embarrassing, and must be properly timed to match intercourse. Some of the creams contain benzocaine, alum, or petroleum jelly, none of which are recommended to insert into the vagina. For more information on these creams, search the Internet under the “vaginal tightening” section.
12) Natural AbsorbShun powder. It is a “totally natural” powder that a man or woman can apply to a man’s penis. It is simple and quick to use, and has a remarkable moisture wicking effect in 1-2 minutes. The more powder used, the greater the absorption, allowing the couple to find (and control) their preferred moisture level and tightness. For more information on this product, go to http://www.absorbshun.com
Whichever option you choose, you should seek a solution that is satisfactory for both partners. Finding the right level of lubrication can lead to greater sexual pleasure, more frequent intercourse, and a closer relationship between partners.